About Me, AskMommaJay

I was raised in the Deep South & in my 20’s I looked in the mirror and realized that I was prejudiced, racist and homophobic. 

I was a lesbian in the bible belt in rural Georgia in the 1990’s, when it was zero fun to be gay in the South. While it’s still not super fun to be gay in my state, I’ve witnessed the evolution of the LGBTQIA+ community, decriminalization of homosexuality, marriage equality and the advancement of human rights.

In my lifetime , I have been diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis, osteoarthritis, generalized anxiety disorder, plantar fasciitis, GERD, sleep apnea, ADHD, sensory disorder, & back/disc issues.

My daughter and my wife lovingly call me a crunchy hippie and I’ve earned the title. I definitely prefer to use homeopathic and natural products over pharmaceuticals, over the counter medication and commercial products.

Through counseling, mindset changes, and lifestyle changes, I no longer suffer from the diagnoses above. I have also learned how to use my neurodivergence (ADHD) as a superpower and I believe others can as well.

I have put in the deep, painful emotional work to heal my past trauma to emerge a healed and whole butterfly that continues to heal and evolve.

I straddle the line of enough things to give me a super unique perspective and thought process on achieving love, success, happiness, and perhaps most importantly, joy.

I have experienced many different labels (some with privilege I continue to pull the veil back on, but also tons with stigma). I’ve learned how to move through the world with labels since the 70’s. 

Unconditional positive regard is the building block of any fantastic therapist & that skill was very natural for me given the trauma and chaos I encountered.

Lastly, I’ve worn every single mask you could think of on a journey to figure out who I confidently, unapologetically, self assuredly am now. I am who I am today as a result of half a century of trauma, failure, success, heartbreak, true love, captivity, freedom, disappointment and unimaginable joy.